P.A.R.N. & Play! Ritual Games 

 Not sure how to initiate?

 Use a timer, we suggest 5-10 minutes each don't stop abruptly, 

1. Start: Suggest "let's play a ritual game!" Notice how that lands with the other. They may say "play what?!" and you respond  with excitement and your choice of ritual;  ex; "the compliant game!"  

2. Be specific: ex. "I'd love to play the compliment ritual game with you (chosen time: right now, tonight, etc.) 

3. Open your ritual sheet, or print your ritual sheet, and physically refer to it. 

4. Schedule ritual game time on your weekly calendar.

Get in eye contact,. Make only sounds—hums, sounds and any noise while making movement.

The mirror copies the leader. Do not use  any words. Sound and move at the same time.  Then switch who is leading, Whether it’s a sway, a stomp, or a stretch. Keep doing both sound and movement. Stay in eye contact, this is not about being creative.  If your partner looks away from your eyes, you can remind them to "look at me." 

End this ritual game with Right Now I Feel

Go back and forth, or give and receive 3 at a time. 

Focus ONLY on what works, be as specific as you can, make each compliment short and clear.

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Close session with: Right Now I Feel.... 

(going back and forth for at least 5 rounds)

1. A: Being with you makes me feel________

1. B: hearing that makes me feel _____________

2. If my body could make a sound about how I feel right now, it would be ___________ (and switch(

 3. If you were a ___________, then I'd be a __________

(be creative)  ​

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