The P.A.R.N. Method | EnchantressShane

P.A.R.N.—Play, Attention, Reveal, Notice—is a dynamic framework designed to enhance personal growth and connections in your relationship. By integrating playful exploration, focused attention, authentic revelation, and mindful noticing, couples deepen their own self-awareness and enrich relationships.

This method has been developed by thought leaders Enchantress Shane Kulman, Dr. Steve Bodansky, each contributing unique insights to its application.

Who is the P.A.R.N. Elite Pleasure Course for?

This program is for couples who are devoted to each other and ambitious in the world — partners who are juggling work, family, and a full life, but crave more than just functioning well together.

You want depth, not just logistics. You want laughter, sensuality, truth-telling, and touch — not just text check-ins and shared calendars.

You're the kind of couple who:

Knows there’s more available in your connection.
Miss the spark of curiosity, play, and intimacy you once had.
Long for a space to be real, to feel seen, and to expand the kind of pleasure that makes life worth living, even more. .

This is your invitation to slow down just enough to reveal to each other again — with tenderness, courage, and presence. Going from a good place to a better place when connection comes first, everything else gets easier.

What's Possible?

Imagine feeling more turned on by your partner emotionally and physically, even during a busy week.
Imagine honest conversations that bring you closer, not conflict.
This is about pleasure. Play. Trust. And real-time tools that make love feel alive again.

Couples who practice P.A.R.N. tell us things like:

“We finally have the kind of relationship and sex life we’ve been imagining for years — and it didn’t end as usual.” - Lisa H.

“Just adding a little bit of play and attention to our week totally shifted our energy — we felt like us again.” Will L.

“Revealing was scary, but afterward, we felt so much closer. Like we were actually on the same team again.” Lara H.

💫 Meet Your Guides: Enchantress Shane &
Dr. Steve Bodansky

Enchantress Shane and Dr. Steve Bodansky are a dynamic duo bringing decades of embodied wisdom, irreverent humor, and deep relational insight to couples who want more than just "fine" — they want alive.

Steve has spent over 40 years mentoring couples and individuals in the art of sensual connection, communication, and truth-telling. He holds a doctorate in Human Sexuality and is co-author of several books on pleasure, including Extended Massive Orgasm. His work has helped thousands of people transform shame and shutdown into joy and turn-on. Known for his sharp insights and warm, grounded presence, Steve guides from experience — both in the bedroom and in long-term committed partnership.

Shane brings the magic. She’s a licensed special educator, a couples therapy master’s candidate, and a lifelong performer — trained in theatre, psychodrama, and improv. She’s led transformational groups in prisons, schools, and spiritual communities for almost 20 years, blending expressive arts, trauma-informed care, and deep intuition. As a community leader and celebration expert, Shane helps people step into their authentic voice and connect from the soul outward.

Together, they co-create spaces where couples can feel safe, silly, real, and radically alive. Their method, P.A.R.N. — Play, Attention, Revealing, and Noticing — isn’t just a technique, it’s a way of being in love that invites magic into the mundane and connection into every conversation.

They live what they teach and teach what they live.

What's Next?

First we set up a curiosity call, you'll meet with Shane and Steve and discuss which program works best for you.
Schedule that here

Moving Forward

If you decide this is a YES! You will discuss on the call which program fits your life: You'll complete registrtion with the deposit of $2500

5 Month P.A.R.N. Elite Pleasure Course

🌹 The P.A.R.N. Elite Pleasure Course

A 5-Month Deep Dive into Play, Attention, Revealing & Noticing

For couples ready to upgrade their intimacy, truth, and turn-on — not through pressure, but through presence. Along with weekly sessions, you are in touch with Shane and Steve as much as you need to keep your practices consistent.

COURSE STRUCTURE:

Month 1: The Foundation — P.A.R.N. Immersion

2 sessions per week
This month sets the tone for your transformation. You’ll receive high-touch support to integrate the principles of Play, Attention, Revealing, and Noticing into your everyday relating.
Each week focuses on one of the four principles — with sessions designed for learning, embodiment, and practical couples work.

Session Breakdown:

Week 1 – The Power of Play
Week 2 – Mastering Loving Attention
Week 3 – Safe + Brave Revealing
Week 4 – Embodied Noticing + Integration

Months 2–5: Deepening the Practice

1 session per week

Each month focuses on weaving P.A.R.N. into real-life challenges and celebrations — from conflict repair to pleasure expansion, parenting to polarity.

You’ll explore:

Erotic tension + emotional safety
Repair conversations that bring you closer
Micro-practices for lasting turn-on
Sensual rituals that fit into busy lives
Playful ways to reconnect in 5 minutes or less

Session Flow Includes:

Live group coaching
Mini-teachings + embodiment practices
Partner exercises

🧿 IN-PERSON PLEASURE PRACTICE SESSIONS (3 + 1 Bonus session)

You’ll receive 3 luxurious in-person sessions with Shane + Steve (in NYC or a mutually agreed location), custom-designed for:

Sensual expansion + intimacy reset
Hands on skills training tailored for your desires
Revealing rituals and embodiment
Extended massive communication games and practices
Couple-specific play guidance (embodiment tailored for you)

BONUS: 4th In-Person Integration Session
Schedule within your 5 months or in the month following to ground your growth, reflect on transformation, and receive loving closure or next-step support.

💌 What You’ll Walk Away With:

A whole updated language of connection
Practices that feel real, fun, and sustainable
Greater emotional honesty and safety
More touch, more laughter, more presence
A relationship that feels truly alive laced with orgasmic energy
Pleasureable skills for self pleasure and connected pleasure

💠 Investment & Registration:

This elite container is intimate and personalized. Space is limited to ensure deep support.

As soon as you give your deposit below, you will schedule a conversation for scheduling your first session

Investment: $8000 (Payment plans available upon request)

Zelle and payment apps available.

Deposit $2500

❓ Frequently Asked Questions

Q: What if my partner is shy or hesitant to join?
A: Totally normal. Many people feel unsure about revealing or being vulnerable — especially on camera. This experience is gentle, non-performative, and built for real people with real lives. You’re welcome to come just to listen, and we always model everything first so you can ease in at your own pace.

Q: Is this for couples in crisis?
A: Nope. It’s for couples who want to stay connected, not just fix problems. Whether you're doing great and want to deepen intimacy — or you're drifting and want to get back to each other — this is for you. It’s like relationship vitamins, not emergency surgery.

Q: Can I come alone if my partner isn’t available or interested?
A: Yes! Even showing up solo can shift your energy and bring change to the relationship. You’ll still learn revealing tools, presence practices, and ways to bring more play and attention into your dynamic — with or without your partner joining live.

Q: Will this be recorded? What if we can't make it live?
A: The live zooms can be recorded and shared with you in a folder for future reference. You can watch it anytime, and the practices are designed to be flexible — whether you continue to do them that night, the next morning, or next week.

Q: What exactly is P.A.R.N.?
A: P.A.R.N. stands for Play, Attention, Revealing, and Noticing — four deceptively simple principles that help couples stay emotionally connected, curious, and turned-on to each other and life.

Q: Is this LGBTQ+ friendly?
A: 100%. This space is inclusive, loving, and designed for all genders and relationship types. What matters most is your desire to grow your connection.

For the Cleverly Curious and Playfully Brave — Enter Here...

Shane & Steve